My heart is always hanging on someone else

They haven't answered, and you've already reached the worst case. Your child goes out and your heart won't land until they're home. A relative's test results aren't back and you're sleeping worse than they are.

You know you're overthinking it. And that suspended feeling isn't something you can reason your way out of.

Sometimes you even feel that worrying like this is part of the love — that not worrying would mean not caring enough.

What may be going on

Worrying about the people you love is natural. Worrying until you can't be steady, though, has gone past care and become a habit of rehearsing disaster on their behalf.

It isn't necessarily easier for the person being worried about either. They often feel the tension, so they report only the good news, which makes closeness harder rather than easier.

Drawing your heart back a little isn't becoming cold. It's steadying yourself first, so that when something does happen you have the strength to be there.

Essences that may fit

You don't need all of them. See which description comes closest to how you are now.

Red Chestnut

Over-worry for others

Over-worry for others; the heart always hanging on someone else. It accompanies you as attention comes slowly back to yourself — it isn't asking you to love less.